We support each other in midst of all our differences. We respect each person’s path as their own. We are recovering from the traumas of child sexual abuse, child abuse and neglect, and adult abuse and trauma. We have many different diagnosis and pursue different healing approaches. No one is in exactly the same place and that is good. Diversity builds a strong community.
We support each other to work toward therapeutic goals. (note: might be helpful to have a member area where we all post a summary of our dx and therapeutic goals- not specifics about trauma- so everyone can have an idea of what others are working on in their therapy, and specific areas of challenge and triggers)
We get to know each other so we can act as better support for each other. And when we share ourselves in ways shallow and deep, we feel connected to a group energy that sustains us through the challenges of healing and recovery.
We are happy for each other and lift each other up when members make progress in their lives and in therapy- this helps us all keep moving forward and not stay stuck
Through feeling connected and supported by our peers, we are able to do our therapy consistently and stay engaged with our therapists.
We invite others into the group as the group energy allows, new invites will be screened for their ability to fit into the group and as leadership feels there is group space to hold more people.
We are there for each other as much as we can be, and, we set appropriate limits and boundaries when we need to so that we stay healthy in our interactions. Setting a boundary does not mean anyone’s needs or wants are not valid. We use the language of “spoons” to talk about how much energy we have at a given time, and when we are out of spoons, we take the time off we need to recharge.
As a Peer Support Group, it is not our role to take the place of individual therapy and medications as indicated. We strongly encourage everyone to work with an individual therapist and get as stable as possible before joining in the group, as the group can and does trigger each of us in different ways. We are not able to provide individual therapy in this group, nor would that be a wise choice for reasons of safety.
We can address the temporary needs of group members who are in crisis in the 911 channel. We ask that members keep any suicidal ideation or self harm talk off the main channels and direct these needs to the 911 channel by using the words “SOS” or “Emergency,” and one of our senior members will intervene as soon as they can. If you have a history of self harm or SI, it would be helpful if you could share your safety plan with a senior member so they can know how to best assist. We’d like to know also if your safety plan includes first responders or contacting your therapist after hours.
Mediation. We can mediate differences between members- we have a structure set up for that where leadership can intervene. Consider triggering or differences between members an opportunity to learn how to have relationships and connect authentically with your peers. It is in no way a failure. Mediation sessions need to be set up in advance so that the mediators schedules are accommodated.
Participation is completely voluntary- members are free to come and go as they need to and want to. If you want to leave the group for a short time or permanently, it is helpful to post that in Living Room- so the group is clear on who is participating at any given time. You can indicate your daily participation by clicking near your name on the bottom where it shows different colors for being online or offline.
If you want to feel connected to the group and build up trust, its recommended that you participate in the more “shallow” exchanges like daily check ins, so that when a crisis comes we know you and have built up some trust
We do not exchange money nor solicit money on this group server. No sales or marketing of any kind is allowed
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